There was one morning, back in UK, when I woke up and knew that something has changed in my perception of life. This morning part of my consciousness that was dormant, woke up and started to scream out loud. Screaming part was one responsible for making my dreams becoming true and it was furious with my behavior. After being for myself too kind I had to face the truth- trip that was suppose to make me strong and help me to develop my passions ended up to be a nightmare presenting one of the worst scenarios of my life I could imagine. I felt trapped!
That morning make me to wonder how does it happen, that some people succeed in their lives, while others got stuck in between what they want and what they are given. I started to think how to improve my life and how to transform it to the one I am dreaming about.
REALITY IS WHAT IS REAL FOR ME
I was always a do-kind of person with half full glass of water*1. There was nothing impossible for me and I used to get annoyed when hearing word IMPOSSIBLE. I tend to repeat: 'Nothing is impossible, unless someone doesn't want to make it happen!' and I strongly believe in it.
This is how I was living my life, firstly when I was a kid (I wanted to play violin- I played), than when I was a teenager (I wanted to write stories- I did) and later when I was a student (I wanted to move to Indonesia- I did). This very morning when I woke up in UK, feeling totally hopeless I thought: 'What have I done wrong, that despite plans I had, I end up in a life I was so embarrassed about???' I believe that acknowledging that something went wrong is first step to improve.
'SUCCESS IS A PROGRESSIVE REALIZATION OF A WORTHY IDEAL'*2
It may sound simple and obvious, but success is indeed progressive realization of a worthy ideal. 'Worthy ideal' is a flexible and cleaver term, so it can be underlay with whatever one can imagine. If any ideal can be realized, than whatever one will imagine can be done. I asked myself : If there is so much space in this term and it is so open than why MY dreams cannot became true???
I found an answer when listening to a lecturer when hearing: 'Imagine ship that do not have any destination'. Where will it go, will it even leave a harbor? Probably not. Same is with our dreams and goals, if we wont set any up, we will not be driven by any forces to proceed them. Setting up the goal is the thing that need to be done, when hoping to become successful. No one can achieve anything without field in which he/she can be successful.
'THE STARTING POINT OF ALL ACHIEVEMENTS IS DESIRE'*3
Now with set up goal and having desire to reach it, the how-to process has to be created. To help youreslf make notes, draw a map, write a synopsis, choose whatever is most comfortable for you, as it is to make your life easier. Think of small steps to get closer to your aim and make them. And please do not treat this personally, but STOP WASTING TIME FOCUS ON IMPROVEMENT INSTEAD.
Driven by passion let yourself to sacrifice some parts of your life to improve others. Think again of your main goal and think of all the things you have done day before to get closer to it. Need some stimulation? Try 'The rule of 5 things' advised by #BodoScheafer. Each day write on a piece of paper 5 things that made you proud of yourself that day. Not long after you will start making such listS, you will see how your overall life will improve.
SUCCESS CONSISTS OF GOING FROM FAILURE TO FAILURE WITHOUT LOSS OF ENTHUSIASM*4
Do you sometimes have a feeling that you do all what I wrote above, but still something gets wrong? Unfortunately, I have to admit, even if you follow all the advices given by 'all-the-smartest-people', something will not go as you imagine. We are not machines and there is no universal instruction 'how to be successful' with which we are getting born. Each of us is different and has to find their own way. It is normal and natural that we make mistakes, so lets look at them as signs to teach us how to do better than before and give us view on what can be done differently.
Learning to fail and do not give up is one of the most important abilities. My fitness trainer often says 'Why when choose success, failure is an option?'*5 so once you walk on the path of success work hard and you will see fruits of it.
*1 to oppose all them who see glass half empty and never have power to do anything
My latest look:
sweater NEXT/jumpsuit TALLY WEIL/shoes and sunnies H&M